“… At Least I Admit It”
Life, Online, Rants September 22nd, 2007Many thanks to Tim for helping me refine this article.
Here’s something that really jumped out at me the past few months, and I’ve noticed it from people both online and offline. It’s the line:
“I know I <insert bad trait> but at least I admit”
There are variations to that but the message is still the same. Here are examples I’ve heard and I paraphrase:
1. From Uni class
“I’m a commerce/law student, I know I’ll probably behave unethically one day, I know I that I’ll probably put profits over moral concerns, but at least I can admit to it”
2. From casual conversation
“I know I’m homophobic, but I at least I’m not hiding it.”
3. Online forums/blogs
“I know I’m immature, I know I’m mean and pick on people, but at least I admit to it, I’ve never denied it.”
I’m not trying to pick on anyone in particular and I may have done the same thing myself without knowing. But… what do such sentiments mean? Such a reply only ever makes sense when someone is asking, “did you KNOW you hold bad opinions?” Once it’s been answered in the affirmative, what role does “… at least I admit it” answers play? Is… it supposed to be a justification? Surely it can’t be that just because they ADMITTED to the bad trait, that makes it okay, right? I’ve been thinking about this over and over again and all that I’ve come up with is that it’s a feeble attempt to distract the audience from focusing on the fact that they just admitted to holding what would be terrible ideologies to the fact that they’re “honest” and “forthcoming” about themselves. But I don’t see how honesty has anything to do with the type of opinions one hold.
A consequence of such an attitude is the internalisation within the actual person of these ideas. These people might have very well convinced themselves “yeah I hold these values, I know other people don’t, but at least I’m honest with myself” with the heavy preoccupation on congratulating themselves on the latter part, the “I’m honest, yay” part, rather than coming to terms with the actual opinion.
I have a feeling that people who hold such ways of thinking might be tempted to retort with “well would you rather I deny I hold these opinions?” But not only does that just gives a false impression that “it’s either this extreme, or this other extreme”, it once again avoids discourse on the actual opinion itself. Your level of honesty is not the issue. The point is, why you think it’s okay to hold these opinions. Whether or not you admit to being homophobic, or unethical, or immature etc, in the end, this isn’t going to reflect how you behave and colour your actions. Whether you admit to such opinions or not isn’t going to change the fact that you’re going to behave homophobically, unethically, immaturely etc. My question is, why is this acceptable?
Let’s take the first example, because no one likes nasty would-be lawyers. It’s almost like he’s saying that he doesn’t need to be ethical just because he’s told everyone he’s not. It’s the same with the other examples, the implication seems to be, yes I admit I have this fault, isn’t it good enough?
The short answer is “no”. The language of self-help, 12-step programs is everywhere nowadays, and everyone knows the famous line “the first step is admitting you have a problem”. You know how people clap and behave sympathetically at AA meetings when someone admits they’re an alcoholic? In such situations though, the assumption is that such honesty is followed by a change in behaviour. People need to be reminded that admitting you have a problem is not the ONLY step, merely the first. The next question we need to ask these people is, “what are you going to do about it?”
I don’t care what opinions people hold as long as they don’t act upon them in a way that affects other people — or if it affects their judgement and decisions in certain circumstances.
Beliefs are, ultimately, principles of action. What you think about the nature of the world is a fundamental determinant of our behaviour.
Thankfully we (in the western world) live in a society of relativistic moderation, where a ‘live and let live’ approach is our dominant interactional paradigm. But the very notion that tolerance is superior to intolerance is, ultimately, a belief, and there are a great many beliefs that people commonly hold today that run in opposition to it.
Very interesting post, I’d say I agree. Just admitting that you have an opinion that would be considered ‘bad’ isn’t good enough. I believe that if you hold any opinion, you better have a reason to back your opinion up. Believing something, ‘just because’ isn’t a real answer.
… Wow. I like how you can write a cool article about something that’s in the back of my mind and make it entirely coherent. ;) Congrats.
This took me a while to write! I also had help from Tim to help polish it too.
http://www.don-lindsay-archive.org/skeptic/arguments.html - A list of fallacious arguments. Once upon a time when I was but a high school sophomore with all the time in the world, I actually read through all of these. I can’t find it, but I’m pretty sure there’s a name for the “at least I admit it” thing in there somewhere.
Most of the people who have a fault and proudly “admit” to it (hell, as if they don’t already strut around and show it off) don’t actually think of it as a fault. It’s acceptable because that’s the way they are, and your opinion of it be damned, that’s the way they’re going to be. I look at it as an ego ride for them, but I don’t pretend to understand the phenomenon any more than you do.
P.S. I think you’ll make an amazing lawyer when/if the time comes, and you made a type in “atheist” on your about page. :p
Oops thanks for tell me about the mistake! *goes fixes*
WOAH that’s a huge list of logical fallacies!! *starts reading*
It isn’t specifically on the list, but I would suggest the “At Least I Admit It” routine is a liberal combination of the Changing the Subject, False Dichotomy, and False Compromise, fallacies.
Hi, I’m Dee and I’m a hypocrite. I’m also a troll, and elitist jerk and a drama-monger.
I will freely and happily admit these flaws to anyone who attempts to argue with me on the internet; it’s the number-one way to deflect ad hominem. It must be something about my dazzling personality (and my tendency to be incredibly wordy), but I get ad hominem attacks a lot on the net and the drive me absolutely nuts because they don’t address my critical point — whatever that happens to be at the time. I mean, the fact that proper argument is a bit of a dead art, I really don’t mind being proved wrong… but calling me names isn’t exactly doing that.
When people pull out ad hominem accusations what they’re trying to do is shut down an argument based on the speaker rather than their point. It’s like, “Yeah? Well, so what if cutting down the forest is a bad idea! I’m not going to listen to you because you’re a homophobe!” To which the Alis Dee school of argument counter is, “Yeah, so what does hating fags have to do with environmental science?”
Of course, there’s a difference between admitting personality flaws as a deflection against logical fallacy and thinking that the admission absolves you from responsibility for your flaw… (Fun Fact: People who embark on 12 Step programs are statistically less likely to make a ‘recovery’ than people who do not)
Oh I hadn’t considered using the statements as an ad hominem. I was referring to addressing the actual topic at hand. But I agree, using it as an ad hominem, is just that, a logical fallacy. I guess that’s like how some people criticise Christopher Hitchen’s alcoholism, rather than his actual opinions. I guess the only way to counter such diversions IS to say “Yes I am an alcoholic, but that’s not the point, is it?”
But yeah, I’m more so talking about the latter type of people in your last paragraph.
Why would they (we) do something about it? As Leila mentioned, if they (we) freely admit to it, it’s obviously not a fault. Being mean/nasty/immature/unethical/homophobic in itself isn’t a fault - it’s the circumstances under which you use those particular traits that characterises the ‘fault’ behind it.
If there was no homophobia, no hate, no drama, no conflict in this world - it’ll be a pretty unhumane world. I say unhuman because hate, dislike, and snobbery are inherently human traits - take them away and you’re left in a society where the people are simply not people any more - they are life forms that go through the tedium of each day without feeling anything.
But being ethical and open-minded and non-hateful are ALSO human traits too. I certainly feel something when I’m defending people against unethical or otherwise hurtful claims, and I also feel something when I give up my seat to old people. Surely you can’t be suggesting that being nasty is MORE human and MORE “alive” I guess than being not-nasty?
The paradox of human existence is that there is always a balance of two opposing viewpoints. I believe it was Rothenberg (and indeed, many ancient philosophers) who spoke of the karmic balance - one cannot survive without the other, that is the reality of life. Just think of the Yin Yang.
For every ethical, open-minded, and non-hateful person out there, there’s going to be an unethical, close-minded and hateful person. That’s the way the world works, and to try to upset the balance by ‘forcing’ such people into a 12-step program or the like is to go against what is natural.
I don’t know how else to say this, Amanda. Karma is demonstrably not real.
In addition to the simple empirical evidence that within people’s lives, between groups, and over multiple modalities, there is no ‘even-balance’ of opposing phenomena, the very concept of karma is frought with definitional problems that should be evidence enough that it cannot possibly be true.
The definition of a pair of karmic ‘opposites’ relies entirely on an arbitrary perceptual standard of distinction. The classic ‘good vs. evil’ karmic duality is transparently impossible the moment one accepts that different people employ different criteria in distinguishing one from the other, and that balance therefore cannot simultaneously exist upon the full scale of differentially calibrated dimensions. Even more specific and trivial karmic dualities are equally aribitrarily, and indeed diversely, defined.
Furthermore, even if one were to accept the existence of some form of cosmic agency that administers karmic balance (which I will add, there is no evidence for and tremendous evidence against) karma as a system, for simply pragmatic purposes, could never be employed globally.
The only notion more easily disproved than demographic karma (balance of ‘types of people’) is personal karma, which is so asinine a concept, that it rationally cannot simultaneously apply to more than one person. Karma supposes universal judgements of (for example) good and bad, and endorses retribution. Thus personal karma suggests that doing good things invites a cosmic response of good outcomes, and doing bad things invites a cosmic response of bad outcomes. If this were true, however, this would mean that every negative outcome visited upon you by another person was ultimately punishment for something bad you have done, and therefore is a good action. But in performing this action, this person has done something ‘bad’, and will invite retribution for doing so, from another person who will be doing a good thing in treating them badly, and again, will invite further retribution. Under karma, there in essence can be no misdeeds, as every time you do something bad to someone, they deserved it, but all the same you will be punished for your hand in the matter.
Also, your suggestion that one is disturbing an innate universal ‘balance’ by ‘forcing’ people into behaviour-modifying programs, implies that you are sometimes not including human activities as part of the karmic spectrum. This is unjustifiable, as the karmic-balance of human activity is the central feature of your point.
Lastly, your implied imperative to not “go against what is natural” is simply baffling. Are you, again, implying that human activity is not part of the ‘natural’ world, and if not, why isn’t it? And if you’re appealing to the non-human standards of ‘nature’ as sources of instruction on our behaviour, does this mean you endorse rape, which is by occurrance the most ‘natural’ form of sexual contact on Earth?
A word of advice, while many ancient philosophers did indeed speculate on a universal karmic balance, the most ancient of philosophies are predictably the most misguided.
I’m sorry, but…
Bluh? I mean, sure, it’s not unknown outside of humans but it’s hardly the most ‘natural’ form of sexual contact. Many species are actually able to physically reject sperm if it comes from forced sexual congress. It’s called sexual selection, mate; it’s a major part of evolutionary biology…
This is true, Dee, but non-consensual attempts at sex, and indeed male-evolved strategies for succeeding despite non-consent, play a massive role in the breeding habits of most species.
This ‘most’ is particularly easy to claim if we are going by direct numbers of organisms, since forced-sex is by wide margins the most common form of sexual contact in arthropods, and they outnumber vertebrates tremendously.
Then again, this isn’t necessarily what a lot of people are considering when they think of ‘nature’.
As far as my Buddhist beliefs go, karma is not limited to one’s lifetime. Upon one’s passing, it is passed onto another’s life upon the moment of their birth - and is judged by the Buddhist doctrine of the Eightfold Path. The degree to which one adheres (or doesn’t adhere) to the Path is how the positive and negative karma is judged. The concept of Buddhism is that everyone has negative karma existing from someone’s previous life - if they manage to work that karma off to reach a karmic bank balance of zero, then they become enlightened and become a Buddha. Obviously, most people do more wrongs than goods, and thus, that is why there are so few officially acknowledge Buddhas. So yes, regarding your skepticism, regardless of whether that a person ‘deserved’ bad treatment from you, you will still receive negative karma.
Even if one is not spiritual, it is still evident that karma exists in a very real way. You steal? You eventually get caught and fined/jailed. You kill? You get jailed. You cheat on your SO? They will either find out about it, a mutual friend will find out about it, or you will be eaten up with guilt. You eat that last bit of chocolate icecream that you were supposed to save for a sibling? It goes straight to your hips. Life is about rewards and punishment, no matter how small and petty the action.
I find it interesting though, that you can accept that different people have different criteria for what can be considered good, or evil, and yet cannot accept the fact that people have differing criteria for what is ethical and unethical. What, pray tell, is the difference between ethics, and “right and wrong”? Are they not intrinsically identical?
The ‘balance’ I was referring to isn’t, as you assumed, linked to the concept of karma.
It is linked to the idea that life is a paradox - that one concept is inextricably linked to its opposite. As I mentioned in my reply to your other post, it is impossible to separate a concept from its opposite - when you think of one, you think of the other. Without one, obviously the other would throw the balance off - what would the world be like without us misguided unethical people to lecture? Would it be a better place? I doubt it.
And yes, I am stating (not implying), that human activity isn’t part of the natural world. The natural world is about prejudice, murder, senseless killing, and living from day to day. Everything that we have been taught as citizens of the modern world is that those are bad things. Essentially, modern human activity simply isn’t natural because we are taught that to give into the basic animal urges is to be unethical, to be wrong, to be savage. There is only one thing natural left in human behaviour - and that’s sex for reproductive purposes. Everything else (wearing clothes, driving cars, having jobs) is in the very base sense of the word, unnatural.
As for your disdain for the ancient philosophers, the beautiful thing about philosophy is that for every idea, there is an opposing one. There is never a right, a wrong, or as you say, a misdirection.
Life does not work that way. People kill, lie, cheat, and steal without being caught. Innocents have been executed for murders they didn’t commit. Many atheists believe that Christians (and other religious people) made up the concept of heaven to account for the lack of karmic balances in life… “Be good; bear with it. Don’t stress about injustices that you cannot change. God will take care of you when you die.” - Religious people often employ that sort of logic. If karma was evident, most of them (Atheists and the religious) wouldn’t feel as they do. Christianity would have a lot less supporters.
The idea of ennui (or the prevention of ennui) as an acceptable murder/rape defense is appalling. Unless you’re advocating it along with homophobia, hate, murder, and rape - what you’re saying is irrelevant. Besides, asking someone to refrain from things like murder and meanness for the hell of it isn’t the same as asking her to always agree with others. Groups of polite people experience conflict.
Yes. I believe that some things are wrong. I don’t care what a person’s been taught; I don’t care where she grew up. If someone kills twins because she feels they’re unnatural and abomination, I’m going to condemn her behavior. I wouldn’t want to charge her with murder of the first degree but, under no circumstances, would I react with, “It’s okay for you to go around killing twins because of the way you’ve been brought up.”
Suggesting that karma equalises in an unseen manner through multiple lifetimes has two problems to it.
1) It relies on the plausibility of multiple lives, which is not only precisely as unlikely an idea as an ‘afterlife’, but when applied in karmic terms would be intrinsically unfair. You would have entire born generations of people, with no common cognitions, memories, or recognisable traits linking them to their former selves, in essence, entirely new and unrelated people, inheriting a debt for mistreatment that someone else had previously racked up. Either this is the case, or newly born persons are the same people as they were in their ‘former lives’, possessing common properties or cognitions. And this is demonstrably false.
2) It is inconsistent with the next thing you suggest, that karma is resolved in a timely and noticable fashion.
As Chantelle pointed out in her excellent reply, the world visibly does not work like that. At best what you are describing when talking about jailtime for crimes, and social punishment for infidelity, is the human desire for direct or indirect retributive justice to exist. But this, of course, onyl supports the notion that karma, like social standards and criminal justice systems, is entirely man-made.
In regard to personally differing or universal standards of ethics, as I thought I had made explicit in my previous comments, while people may employ different standards of ethical judgement, there is ultimately only one justifiable method for deriving ethical judgements, and this is a system of raitonal ethics based on phenomenological certainties (suffering is to be avoided, happiness is to be sought, systems of ideas should be consistent).
People can and do make ‘ethical’ choices under other parameters, but as I said, these tend to be misguided approximations at best.
You seem to have missed the point of my remarks about the arbitrarity of establishing pairs of ‘opposites’. While for any conceivable dimension of perception, there are necessarily opposing extremes, the majority of these conceptions (particularly those of social relevance) are the products of the perceptual paradigm in which they’re being considered. Take the concepts of ‘light and dark’ for example. Under the perceptual paradigm with which we understand visible light, there are evidently two polar opposites of light-exposure, ‘light and dark’. “Lightness” and “darkness”, however, are not intrinsic properties of the universe, as they are merely a tiny component of the global phenomenon of ‘radiation’, which is present in complex and nuanced forms in all places where matter exists.
An even more poignant example would be the supposed dichotomy between ’sin and virtue’. There are a seemingly endless number of potential contributing variables that may bias one’s understanding of the world, to the point where one may ‘perceive’ sin or virtue in a tremendous variety of conflicting ways. It is impossible, therefore, to imagine that such a ‘paradox of opposites’ is in any way a literal reality of the universe, as opposed to a simple consequence of how our perceptual cognitions attempt to simplify the world for us.
And in what terms do you declare our species of animals to no longer be a part of ‘nature’? It cannot be under the criteria of ‘unique behaviours’, as any sufficiently distant species of terrestrial vertebrates will exhibit widely divergent behaviour from another. It cannot be our tendency to form social groups, otherwise prarie dogs, bonobos, ants, and many other creatures wouldn’t be a part of ‘nature’ either. It can’t be the construction of our own environments either, otherwise there go ants again, as well as beavers, nesting birds, and indeed any hive-insect. It cannot be for the culture-like transmission of learned information over generations, either, since this would take song-birds and chimpanzees out of ‘nature’ as well. Even the explanation you explicitly offer, that the “natural world is about prejudice, murder, senseless killing, and living from day to day”, immediately puts a great number of under-privileged human civilisations right back in nature.
I don’t think there is an adequate answer that can be offered as to why we, of all species, should be treated as transcenders of the natural world. And even if we were, by the description you gave just now, why did you suggest previously that one was doing a bad thing by advocating a position that is “unnatural”? Your description of nature is pretty crummy.
As for philosophy, it saddens me that so noble a pursuit is so often mischaracterised as a place in which one ‘cannot be wrong’. Philosophy is an exercise in proposing and comparing ideas, and in so constructing theories to answer questions with difficult (or sometimes obvious) answers. But it is in this articulation and comparison of ideas that the meat of philosophy lies. Such considerations are meaningless if one is not comparing multiple ideas in order to see which explains the most, and then build on it.
Some ideas are literally better than others, and through philosophical discussion this comparative value can be discovered. It is precisely because of this that modern philosophies have grown beyond the discovered failings of the philosophies of old, all the while ultimately owing the philosophers of the past a great deal of thanks for their trouble.
It is a baffling denial of the most simple of Darwinian understandings, to suggest that something is likely to be right because it is ancient. I would advise you review your position on this.
One last thing.
Yes, Amanda. It really would.
Amanda, I don’t think there are any reasonable grounds to suggest that the traits/beliefs in question are not intrinsically flawed. You seem to be suggesting that, under some circumstances, behaviour intended to emotionally harm others is not a bad thing. Or beliefs and behaviour which are critically underdeveloped and untenable, are not a bad thing. Or believing that homosexuality should be unconditionally condemned, is not a bad thing. Indeed, you are forwarding the notion that unethical stances of all forms, are sometimes ok.
Now, conceptions of ‘ethics’ are known to vary nowadays, particularly due to the existence of traditionally inherited ‘moral codes’, religious ones mostly. These are at best well-intentioned but misguided approximations of ethical intuitions, and are at worst insular dogmas intended to viciously suppress dissent, but nonetheless make up the largest body of unjustifiable ‘ethical’ stances one is likely to encounter. When I speak of ethics, I am not referring to these rule sets, but rather to the concept of rational ethics, whose judgements rely on three fundamental principles; the minimisation of suffering, the maximisation of happiness, and the logical consistency of standards.
Under this system of review, which coheres with biological intuitions to form the justifiable bulk of ethical judgements, each of the stances discussed here is flawed and to be avoided, owing to their inadequate rational bases (one cannot rationally defend immature and prejudicial stances as necessary or useful), and their often wilful fostering of human suffering.
As for your second point, regarding the necessity of these negative traits to “humanity” and quality of life, this also appears untenable.
What you have essentially done is considered the range of human behaviour and cognition, which normatively includes the unethical stances in question, and made the assertion that they are a necessary subset to human behaviour and cognition as a whole. You have, however, offered no justification for why this must be the case. You have identified no property of this particular subset of stances that demands their inclusion in practiced behaviour, in order to maintain all the rest. You have simply implied that the range of human activity is a Jenga-tower that will collapse with the removal of some of its components. But if this were the case, what of archaic practices that are no longer carried out anywhere, such as ritual human sacrifice? Simply put, we have no reason to think that non-ethical activities are necessary to maintain a human experience.
It is as if you are literally suggesting that without feeling negative things, we would not feel anything. This is demonstrably untrue.
The ethics that you speak of were originally conceptualised by a certain part of society, and it is only over the millenia that it’s spread through the rest of society. If the Yankees hadn’t triumphed over the South, what’s to say that the black people of Africa wouldn’t still be slaves, or that the world wouldn’t accept that? If the West hadn’t triumphed over the East, what’s to say that women wouldn’t still be subservient to men, still subjected to practices like foot-binding?
Modern ethics are created through years and years of social conditioning - there is nothing to suggest that the ethics that are largely accepted by society are anything but. If an individual was to grow up totally isolated from society, is there any reason to believe that he or she would view killing another person as unethical? Or would it simply be natural instinct, a la “this being has meat on it, I need to kill it and eat it”? If they are not taught that murder is wrong, there is no conceivable way that they would understand this. Ethical standards aren’t intrinsic to a person’s genetic makeup - it is taught by society.
We are all taught as children that murder is wrong. That’s universal in society (but as mentioned earlier, an individual who grows up outside of society wouldn’t know this). Prejudice against other races or homosexuals however, is another matter, as different cultures and societies hold different views towards those concepts, and other concepts like it.
Venture into the back rural villages of China, or Mongolia, that are untouched by the Western world, and as a white male, you will be treated not with wonder and respect, as Western novels so charmingly imagine, but with fear, hate, even derision. You would be an anomaly, a devil spirit conjured up by one of many wicked Gods, and immediately shunned, condemned and refused shelter or food. Would you chalk that up to their unethical behaviour, and condemn them for it? Or would you accept such behaviour, understanding that it’s simply “the way they were brought up”?
By the rules and ethics of Western society, if you choose the former, you’re narrow-minded and unreceiving of other cultures, you would in fact, be racist. If you choose the latter, you’re accepting racism, which you accuse me of doing. Can one really judge a society or culture that you can’t intellectually understand, simply because you haven’t been brought up in it?
Someone brought up in a homophobic, or racist, or prejudiced, (or anything that’s considered by Western society at large as unethical) household would have legitimate arguments as to why their beliefs make sense. If you don’t personally understand the way someone has been brought up, or the society that they live in, then you simply cannot make a judgement as you will lack what they have - their particular brand of social conditioning, just as they would lack your particular brand of social conditioning.
And their arguments work, because logically, if you were to scrape away your social conditioning, they make sense. It is the logical thing to do, because physically, and socially speaking, they are correct. If China hadn’t been penetrated by the West, foot-binding would still exist. If the Yankees hadn’t intervened, the South would still have a slave trade. Would the subjugated in those societies feel bad about their position? If they don’t know any different, how could they? Does it make it right? No. Does it make it wrong? No.
“Ethics” is a thorny topic, and can be twisted every which way, for any type of argument. To suggest that something as simple calling an overreaction to an article idiotic, and pointing out the fallacies of said overreaction, is automatically unethical is to assume that all cultures and societies should hold the same values as your own - and homogenisation of culture is never admirable.
I personally believe it is UNethical to NOT point out said fallacies. If a person is making a mistake, they need to be corrected. Obviously, you feel likewise. If what we do is essentially the same, then what would make my, or others, points more intrinsically unethical than yours, or anyone else’s? Are we not both pointing out faults in others?
Regarding your last paragraph, I do believe it is impossible to feel or experience true happiness, without having first experiences true hatred. Without one, the force of its opposite cannot be felt in its entirety as you have no other emotional experiences to compare it to. As people, we think of, and define things and concepts by first defining what it is not.
What is good? Good is what isn’t bad. What is bad? Bad is what isn’t good.
Amanda, what you’re essentially articulating here is a conception of ethics known as ‘cultural relativism’. It’s a very common, if not the completely dominant, approach to ethics in the western world. It is, however, untrue, and it will be my pleasure to now demonstrate why.
The central proposition of cultural relativism (pertaining to ethics) is this: All ethical standards are arbitrary social constructions, that one simply acquires from one’s cultural context of experience. In essence, that there is no objective or ultimate standard of moral judgment, and that it is possible to imagine a cultural context in which any behaviour could be viewed as ethical.
Now, first and foremost, it is important to credit cultural context for its role in influencing moral understandings. I have previously spoken about the cultural standards and ‘moral codes’ that a person in any given society stands to inherit. The truth of this influence, however, does not rule out the existence of non-cultural, more universal sources of moral judgment. Also the implied arbitrarities inherent to cultural relativism raise questions in regard to the strong similarities between ethical standards the world over, which a ‘common ancestry’ account does little to resolve.
If we were seeking a universal grounding for the ubiquity of moral concepts, we must ask ourselves, what do all humans have in common? The obvious answer presents itself: Being Human.
Humans, as a species, possess increbibly low genetic variation, relative to other known high-population animals. This means that all human beings alive today, and for the length of human history as far back as we care to declare ourselves ‘humans’, are working with highly standardised cognitive equipment.
We therefore have a wide variety of mental features (or more appropriately, mental potentials), close to identical to those of every other human being we are ever likely to know. Now, in what way do the standard operating apparatus of our brains, determine morality?
Ethics, for any person, is comprised of 3 interacting features:
1) Evolved biological intuitions about social behaviour.
2) Phenomenological and rational absolutes.
3) Social learning.
You have spoken a great deal about number 3), but it is in 1) and 2) that the ‘universal’ components of morality can be found.
Every organ in the body of an animal evolves modularly to provide said animal with the greatest chance for survival and reproduction. A brain is an organ that processes sensory information, within its limiting parameters, and as one would expect of any organ, the functional parameters of a brain evolve over time to best allow an organism to survive and reproduce. There are, as such, ‘hardwired’ modes of function in human brains that we possess precisely because having such processes increases our chances of survival and reproduction, relative to not having them. In an global sense, these include: the processing pathways that make specific use of all of our sensory modalities, the imprinting memory systems that allow us to learn both episodic and semantic information about the world, the complex modules that allow for the rapid development of language, etc. etc., the list goes on.
Regarding the issue of ethics, the following innate cognitive structures have particular relevance:
1) We possess agent-oriented perceptual biases. We are innately predisposed to view animate objects in the world as ‘agents’, which have a knowable set of goals and capacities. This predisposition developed mostly so that we could quickly and effectively interact with both useful and threatening organisms in the world around us (e.g. One deals most effectively with a tiger when one can easily construct a notion of a tiger as “An agent that wants to kill and eat me, and could”. An interesting side-effect of this predisposition is our tendency to treat non-organisms as if they were agents, like when people attempt to negotiate with broken computers, or feel that their broken car is somehow being unfair to them.
2) We possess a developmental tendency to form what is called ‘theory of mind’, an intuitive perspective-taking assumption that leads us to regard other humans (and often, any perceived agent) as if they have an internal subjective experience akin to our own. We do not know in any literal sense that every person we meet isn’t simply a mindless automaton that appears to act as we do, but it is the theory of mind tendency that leads us not to credit such a possibility as plausible.
3) We possess an innate sense of ‘logical consistency’, which causes us to experience an affirmative sensation when something appears to ‘make sense’, and experience a sensation of ‘dissonance’ when something does not. This predisposition allows us to rationally review the patterns we naturally search for in the world, and help us refine them on the basis of consistency and reliability. Without it, we would be ultimately incapable of refining our inductive understandings, and would not be able to conceive ‘best’ courses of action at all.
4) Like all social animals, we possess a number of altruistic intuitions that cause us to feel specific empathies with other agents on the basis of discernable distress or satisfaction ‘cues’, and as such are predisposed, at least with identifiable members of our own kind, to behave in a manner most conducive to cooperation and collective benefit.
These cognitive properties, which are intrinsic to all human beings, are the basis of our evolved biological intuitions of ethics. In essence, each of us possess the capacity to recognise the agency of other human beings, empathise with their circumstances, and experience visceral reward or discomfort when made aware of their pleasure or suffering. These biological tendencies form the basis for the vast majority of ethical commonalities between different cultures, because if we are in a situation where we can sympathise with another human being, and no unrelated cultural ideologies are intervening, we will experience vicarious happiness in response to their happiness, and vicarious displeasure to their displeasure. It is a sort of evolved “golden rule”, it biases us towards treating others how we would like to be treated.
Building on this, we are in a position to make judgments in the realm of rational ethics. As I said previously, in order to make rational ethical judgments, one need only acknowledge three principles; suffering is to be avoided, happiness is to be pursued, and rational standards should be consistent. The first two are the case, because happiness and suffering are phenomenological absolutes, which become relevant for others when we consider our theory of mind and drive towards empathy. The third principle is a simple articulation of our sense for logical consistency.
In this sense, rational ethics is a system that is both intuitive and universally applicable to all people, which will never fail to offer maximally justifiable ethical positions. It is, however, possible to miss the obvious considerations of rational ethics, when one has been encouraged to utilise a perscribed standard of cultural ethics instead.
For the record, your assertion that my ethical position happens to be the one local to my cultural background, is untrue. There are many inherited conventions of ‘western moderate’ ethics that I bluntly reject (for example, the non-reproach status of supernatural beliefs). This is because I make ethical judgements entirely in terms of rational ethics. In principle, anyone could.
Thus, there is not only a universal basis to all ethical traditions, but there is also a superior alternative to all culturally specific standards of ethics.
As for your last comments, in regard to the necessity of experiencing suffering in order to experience happiness, this is also untrue. Modern neurobiology has firmly established how the sensations of happiness and suffering occur, and while the conscious experience of them can be gradiated by mental comparison, their occurence and literal intensity are in no way contingent on what you have or have not already experienced.
(This is a quick reply to both Chantelle and Tim as it would be tedious to reply to mini-essays)
1) Regardless of whether retribution occurs as a result of persecution by others (jail, fines, social ostracism, etc.), or by oneself (the emotional and mental toll exacted after committing a heinous crime), it will occur, either in your lifetime, or in the lifetime of the person who inherits your karmic debt.
2) The idea of karmic debt isn’t fair or logical? A young child being teased by their peers isn’t fair, being beaten by an abusive partner isn’t fair, life isn’t fair - but that is the karma they have inherited. You can cancel this debt out and improve your lot in life by positive action.
3) If you cannot intellectually understand the society or culture, you cannot judge their behaviour or beliefs without missing the point of their ideals altogether, the idea of cultural relativism being faulty be damned. To suggest that there is only justifiable rational method for deriving ethical judgements is to see it from one POV and to firmly reject all other possibilities as misguided - which is a narrow-minded view comparable to the that which you accuse others of having. To come in with the view encouraged by the Western societies you were raised in - to automatically say that those raised in Africa, India, the Third World, and like countries, have inferior ideologies, again cements the perception of your inherent racism.
Call me pessimistic, but I firmly believe that rationally speaking, the large majority of people would rather improve their own lot in life rather than to come to the aid of another. To give a rather cliched example: If you, or any other person, was to be taken hostage and given the choice of a) saving yourself, or b) saving a stranger, which would you choose? Would you give up your own life for the undeniably more ethical decision of saving someone you’d never met before?
Apply that same concept of individuals being out for their own benefit to any other situation, and the very idea of rationality ruling ethical decisions is flawed.
4) Asking people to refrain from being mean is essentially asking certain types of people to forsake what may be an integral part of their personality. It is essentially the advocation of a homogenised society where something that is a key part of a person is quashed for the ‘greater good’. It’s hardly an example of the “happiness for all!” part of what was termed ‘correct’ ethical deliberation that was being advocated.
5) Regarding the citing of modern neurobiology - you stated that “the conscious experience of them can be gradiated by mental comparison”. So basically, without having experienced great despair, one cannot consciously recognise great hope. You seem to believe that the occurence and intensity of the emotion is what matters - however if one cannot recognise what the particular emotion is (via comparison with its antithesis), then does it mean that the emotion is as powerful as it could be? Unconscious recognition of an emotion cannot compare to conscious recognition of the same emotion.
One last thing: call me deluded, call me cynical, call me *gasp* prejudiced, but I truly believe that unless you had (in your eyes, unethical) others to lecture to, you wouldn’t be happy (hence, your pleasure to demonstrate yadda yadda yadda). So no, the world wouldn’t be a better place, because a) you don’t get the chance to show off your intellect, and b) we don’t get to “be mean” to idiots. If neither of us get what we need to be content, how is the world essentially a ‘better place’?
First and foremost, Amanda, I’d like to thank you for numbering your paragraphs here. This will allow me to reference what part of your response I’m replying to without adding further bulk to my comment by quoting you.
Amanda Point 1)
You claim that karmic retribution of some form will be visited for every misdeed one commits, sometimes literally, sometimes emotionally, or sometimes in another life. You can in no way prove this claim, and by the very non-disprovable nature of multiple-life inheritance, noone ever could. It is a meaningless assertion. There is no evidence that anyone could ever provide to prove this assertion wrong, therefore if it was wrong you would be incapable of ever realising that it is so. This is why one must never credit non-disprovable assertions.
Amanda Point 2)
Your account of whether the universe is fair or not appears pretty inconsistent, Amanda. At some points you have suggested that the world is visibly karmic and balanced, now you are suggesting that the world is visibly unfair, but is unmeasurably evened out over multiple lifespans.
Just to recap, neither Chantelle nor myself have ever suggested that the world is a fair place, nor do we suggest that it should be. You are the only one who has suggested that the world either is or should be fair, and have attempted to resolve this claim with the presumed existence of karma. I was merely pointing out that even the fictitious karma system you support would not be fair for anyone involved in it. There is simply no way to argue that universal, retributive justice exists.
Amanda Point 3)
You make a good number of fallacious assertions here.
First, you imply that one cannot ‘intellectually understand’ facets of a culture or society if one is not a member of it. This is untrue, and you have made no attempt to justify why you think I don’t understand the ethical positions of a variety of cultures.
I am also lead to believe that you did not comprehend what I was trying to say in my previous comment in regard to my own ethical stance. My personal ethics are in no direct way guided by the ethical standards of the culture in which I was raised, I have actively rejected these standards, finding them unjustified, inadequate or misguided. I utilise rational ethics, and rational ethics alone, which exist independent of any traditional cultural standard.
You then make the quite remarkable claim that I am being racist in finding the ethical standards of all cultures inadequate. Your phrasing suggests that I am coming from a ‘western’ ethical orientation. This is untrue. You then say I would be “automatically” declaring the other systems inferior. This is also untrue, as I take the time to review the details and reasoning of every cultural standard I have ever commented on, and would see no point in even attempting to comment on a stance who’s details I have never considered. Finally, and most bafflingly, you suggest that it would be racist for me to attempt to apply my judgements to the standards of another culture. Not only does this statement imply a unity between race and culture that is defintionally incredibly racist (as it is the presumption that intellectual properties or beliefs can be perscribed on the basis of race), but it overlooks the simple contradiction in your position. You are somehow suggesting that it is less racist to apply different standards of judgement to different races, and more racist to treat different races with equality. This is wrong on every account.
You then go on to suggest that rational ethics is flawed, because people (especially with regard to strangers) tend to be self-interested. This is, however, entirely untrue.
You make the assertion that it is “undeniably” more ethical to save the life of a stranger in the place of your own. While this is true by western cultural conventions, and resonates with most conceptions of ‘nobility’, this is not true under rational ethics. By the standards of rational ethics, the value of any person’s life is connected to their capacity to experience happiness, suffering, and agency, and your perceived duties to a person are the result of your awareness of these three conditions. Therefore, in rational ethics (as in the intuitive stance of all people, as you said) your first loyalty is to yourself, and your perceived duty to others is proportional to your awareness of their condition. You have no obligations to aid those whose suffering you are unaware of, and it is only when conditions of awareness personally involve you with the state of others, that you will feel obliged to foresake your self-interest for the benefit of another.
This is why we feel (and are) accountable for the harm we knowingly do to others. Why we are more likely to sacrifice ourselves for the benefit of a close friend than a stranger. Why the reciprocal caring interest of other people is an immense source of personal satisfaction.
There is a kind of irony inherent to ethical traditions that over-emphasise self-sacrifice, as they seem to suggest that a persons well being must be supported at all costs, unless that person happens to be you.
Amanda Point 4)
Here you seem to be pitting the concepts of “diversity as good” and “self-improvement” against each other. But this establishes a false dichotomy between encouraging ethical behaviour and foresaking diversity, or supporting diversity and foresaking encouraged ethical behaviour.
To do so is to imply that different degrees of expressed cruelty are a fundamental constituent of a person, and that attempts to change this would result in a ’slippery-slope’ form of variation loss. In essence, that more uniform behaviour in this domain would foster uniformity in all domains.
This is untrue, not only because people differ on a range of dimensions that is tremendously diverse, but because it fails to credit the importance and ongoing occurence of personal changes.
This is a peculiar correction to have to make to a Buddhist, but it is fallacious to consider people as static objects with a list of properties that identify them. People, rather, are processes, that exist in an ongoing sequence of personal changes. One therefore cannot insist that a suggested ‘change’ to a person is in any way a bad thing, or a loss of ‘what makes them who they are’.
When the embracing of ethical behaviour not only increases the rational validity of one’s actions, but also benefits all of the people they would otherwise mistreat with less ethical behaviour, every person involved benefits and it is only a particular domain of ‘diversity’ that suffers. But to suggest that ethical behaviour should not be encouraged in order to maintain diversity in this domain, is to request that many people stagnate their personal growth, and countless others experience more suffering than they need to, simply for the sake of diversity as a principle. This is, befittingly, a highly unethical stance.
Again, would you encourage that more people conduct ritual human sacrifice (which is no longer done in the modern world), simply to increase the diversity of behaviours and ethical beliefs that exist? I should hope not.
Amanda Point 5)
What you have literally done here, is quoted a small section from the middle of my paragraph out of context, in an attempt to validate the belief that the paragraph disproves. The quoted line “the conscious experience of them can be gradiated by mental comparison” is preceded by a “while”, and is followed by “their occurence and literal intensity are in no way contingent on what you have or have not already experienced”. This means, again, that a person who has never experienced great dispair can and will experience great hope when the appropriate situation arises. We possess innate cognitive pathways that cause certain sensations to trigger parts of the nucleus accumbens, substantia nigra and amygdala in specific patterns. These neural activations are the phenomenological sensations of happiness, suffering, expectation, etc, that we feel when situations strike us. They are gradiated within small degrees by contextual experiences, but in no way depend on them to occur.
I really should add that, even if neuroscience did not possess as advanced an understanding of the human brain as it does today, your position would still be an untenable one, on the basis of simple logical consistency. You say that opposing experiences, essentially, contextualise human perception to each other, which is to say, someone who has not known happiness can not experience sadness, or vice versa. But this is a self-defeating position.
Imagine a small child, a tabula rasa (in Lockean terms), who has never experienced much of anything. Suppose something truly spectacular were to happen to it, you would suggest that it would be incapable of experiencing/recognising great joy, as it had never experienced great sadness or suffering. Very well. But then suppose, instead, that something immensely horrible were to happen to the same child. Would they be incapable of experiencing/recognising great suffering, because they have never experienced great joy? By your telling, presumably so. But then.. where is the starting point? If every experience needs the context of its experiential opposite to be appreciated, how does anyone ever come to experience anything? And even if this child may, say, experience great happiness, but not recognise it, but then be capable of experiencing great suffering because they experienced happiness before, but didn’t recognise it.. doesn’t this make the role of ‘recognising’ an experience meaningless, since any experience you have but can’t appreciate will eventually be retroactively validated by future experiences? It simply doesn’t work.
In regard to your final paragraph, you would be mistaken to suggest that I would be unhappy in a world full of exceptionally moral people, as this would suggest that attempting to correct the moral misdirection of others is my single source of happiness. It is not, just as I imagine being cruel to “idiots” isn’t the only thing you enjoy. The only essential difference to the world would be that countless people would not have to endure discomfort, displeasure, and even suffering, at the wilful hands of people who feel they can justify the knowing mistreatment of others.
In a world of entirely (or even more) ethical people, potential antagonists would know that there is no justification for causing others to suffer, when it is well within their power to avoid doing so.
Well admitting it is step one, if they want to change. Some people like to be the way they are because it just suits them and we really can’t force them to do anything about it if they want to be that way. Can we?? Well we can try… :-P
Anyway for me, if someone admits to being something bad, fine. But that doesn’t give them the right to act on that. If someone admits to being a thief, it doesn’t make his stealing things acceptable.
That’s like a naturalistic fallacy, just because something is a certain way, doesn’t mean that’s how it ought to be. Likewise just because you are something, doesn’t mean that’s how you should to be.
I absolutely agree, admitting to being a thief DOESN’T make stealing acceptable. But the thief might nonetheless say “well I know I’m a thief, I’m not denying it”, it’s just that this sentiment makes little sense to me. If you think being a thief is something other people might deny, doesn’t that imply there’s something bad about it? What does the thief being honest about it have anything to do with anything? And you’re right it’s beside the point, and I think more people need to see beyond the “well he IS honest” part and tackle the first bit.
They don’t view these traits as faults. I don’t want to repeat Dee but, one of the best ways to deride a personal attack is to shamelessly admit to the fault you’re said to have.
Openly confessing isn’t the same as admitting that there’s something wrong with your behavior but, it’s on the road to getting there. It’s easier to treat a disorder when you know what it is… It’s only perhaps #.5 on any step plan but, it’s something.
Getting someone to say, “I know that I’m mean” is something. Getting “I’m mean but, at least, I’m honest about it” is even better because the girl who says that is probably facing a moral dilemma; searching for a way to justify her vice. If she weren’t, she wouldn’t tack on nonsense about being honest. The key here is to do as you did: to question the relevance of honesty to the discussion at hand.
The person who randomly mentions honestly in conjunction with something else realizes that that something else is potentially a vice but- she also thinks that there’s something special about her circumstances that makes being that way acceptable. For instance, many in our circle feel that offering unnecessarily immature and mean-spirited criticism is just fine because “all criticism is helpful”. Perhaps it is if you try really really really hard to get something out of it but - seriously, the idea that all criticism is helpful is naive if not dumb. Another argument often advanced in favor of meanness is that it’s natural… These sorts of justifications are silly and they just need to be picked apart.
I’ve rambled for long enough.
I agree. And as I said to Dee regarding ad hominem attacks, sometimes you’re forced to use the actual “I know I am ___ but so what” when people are trying to change the topic.
For example, someone might say “why should we hold any regard to your opinions about gay marriage, I heard you don’t shower every day”. An intuitive answer would be “I know I don’t shower every day, I never said I did, but what’s that got to do with my opinions on gay marriage?” In such a circumstance, to get back on topic, I think it’s acceptable to dismiss allegations that have nothing to do with the actual subject matter.
It’ll be different to say “Yeah I’m a cook, I don’t wash my hands after going to the bathroom, I never denied it”. Outright dismissal of the actual subject matter to focusing on the the person’s honesty… makes no sense to me.
I think that it bothers me more when a person has a bad trait and they don’t admit it, than when they do accept it. However, the fact that they admit it doesn’t make the bad trait acceptable / forgivable =P
Hmm see I personally don’t know what’s better, admitting or not admitting. One can always argue that if you actually DENY the bad belief, you are at least well aware that what you’re doing is no good that you perhaps feel shame in holding such beliefs. But if you’ve admitted to it, you might’ve already squared it off to yourself that the bad belief is okay. But then at least they’re open to challenge to such an opinion. So hmmm I’m still iffy on which is better.
I agree with you that some people use admitting it to make it less of a bad thing, but there are also people that don’t think it’s bad and don’t want to change it.
I surely have not thought about this so it’s an interesting topic because I think I do that all the time. Or at least when I tell other people, “Yes, I know I’m an arrogant bitch”, I add that final admitting line in my head. I think it’s because admitting and accepting that you certainly do have such a flaw is seen as better than having such flaws and still trying to argue that you don’t.
You seem - from your entry and responses above - to be under the impression that these people admit their flaws because it makes them feel it’s then OK to do whatever it is they’re admitting to? I’m not sure where this assumption comes from..
On a personal level I don’t admit to my flaws to make me feel better or to make whatever acts I’m committing feel less unethical, I do it so that there’s no grounds for confusion and so that people can’t try and hold my actions above my head in a “ner ner, I know you do this” kind of way.
I admit my flaws not as a justification for having them, but because there’s no point in hiding them. I accept that I am human, that I do things wrong and that I make mistakes. Sometimes I make things right again, and sometimes I really just don’t care enough to bother.
I would rather me honest with myself and admit than I’m a big meanie, or that I pick my nose, or that I wore the same pair of jeans all week (whatever, you get the point) than walk around under the pretense that I’m perfect.
Of course people make mistakes, but since you’re human you also have the power to change. There’s a difference between unintentionally making a mistake, and doing something on purpose and nothing caring. If it’s the former, that would be expressed by some sort of remorse on your part. If it’s the latter, then the question is why you don’t care enough to bother.
Whoop-de-doo, you’re honest with yourself, congratulations. This is exactly what I’m talking about in this entry. My beef isn’t with your honesty, but with your opinions. When it comes to more trivial things, like wearing your jeans for a week these are not things that affect others. We’ve learnt from society that doing these things are “naughty” for no other reason other than society dictates that it’s naughty.
But if we address more serious actions, actions that affect others, then that’s another matter altogether. I ask you then, why you think it’s okay to be a “big meanie” to othersm, why don’t you care enough to bother?
“My beef isn’t with your honesty, but with your opinions.” .. we can’t all be perfect Belinda clones with the same opinions, the world would be a very boring place.
I’m assuming you’re actually specifically asking me why I choose to be a “big meanie” now, and not just generalising? In truth, it’s because I simply don’t care. It’s not my responsibility to make the world happy-go-lucky for other people. Why don’t I care? Well, I’m sure that’s one for any would-be psychologists among us to figure out.
Asking someone to abstain from things like “being a big meanie” isn’t the same as asking her to always agree. Groups of polite people experience conflict; your remark about people being clones is irrelevant.
Okay. Again, if I were to ask you to stop being mean for shits and giggles, I wouldn’t be requesting or even implying that it’s your responsibility to make the world happy-go-lucky for others. The idea behind such a request would be that you stop needlessly hurting and insulting people - to cease something, not to start volunteering at orphanages.
But by not being this so-called “big meanie” I am on the road to being just like you, or just like Belinda. And where should I draw the line at falling in place because the person that I am offends your delicate sensibilities? If I stopped playing to this “big meanie” persona that so many assume about me in favour of being just like you, how do I know that a few months down the line you wouldn’t just churn out another request that would make me slightly more ethical (in your eyes)?
I’m going to hazard a guess, but you’re more like us than you know. I know you help people; I’ve seen it with scripts and codes. You’re probably not homophobic or racist or sexist. You’re probably not superficial. You’re probably not for an authoritarian system of government. As for myself, I am all these things too (though not so much with the code help). Going the further step of not being a “big meanie” is not going to turn you into a 21 year old Chinese law student who likes 50s music.
Ethics is not something Chantelle and I decide. Ctrl+F on this page to see what Tim has said about rational ethics as I hold the same view on the matter. The rule of thumb is about considering who gets affected.
I don’t care if you don’t shower every day or pick your nose or don’t follow the fashion trends or whatever, these don’t affect people and are arbitrary. But being a “big meanie” to people is a lot less arbitrary.
Besides, you’re not unique in being a big meanie. Your “meaniness” is probably picked up from somewhere and no doubt you’ve affected others to emulate your “meanieness”. So the argument that “I don’t want to change because I’d be less unique” doesn’t quite hold water.
My point was not that we are totally different people, but that this so-called big meanieness is a part of who I am, and a part of who I’ve always been (not that it is unique, either). I don’t want to change it to be more or less like anyone else because I am happy.
I read most of Tim’s waffling. I got bored. Plus, Amanda’s arguments seemed more logical to me.
The problem I have is not with the rational request that we should all have the common decency to be nice to one another. Rather that anyone who strays from that just a smidgen has no ethics or morals to speak of, or that anyone who dares comment on someone else’s thoughts, achievements, etc is automatically making a personal attack. I do not see how criticising automatically equals unethical.
I’ve said many times on my blog and in forums and other places that I have NOTHING against criticism. Criticism is usually not unethical, because you’re not intending to hurt someone. Being a “big meanie” (we need a definition!) arguably is. One domain would be personal attack v attack on one’s opinion. I’ve always held the belief that “you’re ugly and stupid” does NOT equate to “I think your opinions on abortion are incorrect”. The former is about “I have a problem with as a person (usually of things people can’t control)” and the latter is about comparing opinions.
And ethics works in independent domains. You can be ethical in how you treat animals for example, but unethical in how you treat minorities. If you find it entertaining to ridiculing 15 year olds and their website (just a hypothetical!) to their faces, I would think that’s not justified. Doesn’t mean you stomp on kittens or something.
However, I don’t think you’ve ever actually ridiculed someone have you? Criticised someone yes, but have you actually called someone a retard or jackass or other insult? The type of unjustified insulting that comes to my mind is the type exemplified in Becky’s blog but I’ve already said what I wanted there. If you don’t actually subscribe to that kind of insulting, I really don’t think our ways of thinking are THAT different.
Of course in the end, if you feel COMFORTABLE with laughing AT people (the actual person, not their creations or opinions) then I can’t do anything about it. Discussion really stops there if you actually have no problems with such a premise.
No, I don’t tend to ridicule people unnecessarily. I’d be a liar if I said it was something I’ve never done, but I rarely make comments about people as individuals at all. However, a lot of people assume I do because I’m comfortable being up front about my opinions in general. This earned me the reputation of “big meanie” so I deliberately play up to it. I go out of my way to defend that persona despite the fact that it’s built on assumptions on behalf of others.
Well it came to a definitional misunderstanding it seems. By “big meanie” I thought you meant “person who insults, laughs at and is entertained by mocking people (actual people, not just their sites or opinions)”. I’m sure some people have thought my own criticisms of them, even though I try to avoid any personal attack, is mean.
Then again some people also say, “I know I’m oversensitive to criticism… but at least I admit it”. :P That’s… a whole other story.
I hope the irony of referring to my comments as ‘waffling’ and Amanda’s posts as ‘logical’ isn’t lost on you, Jem.
Say what you will about the volume I am willing to write in an attempt to not be misunderstood, but ‘tl;dr’ does not invalidate a point. Neither do masses of unqualified assertions, for that matter.
Your posts were no longer than Amanda’s, as far as I recall - so ‘tl;dr’ is completely irrelevant. I simply found your superior attitude and style of writing to be both annoying and boring.
In Amanda’s defense, the early majority o