Mm more late night musings.

Maybe I’m just being biased here, but do you find it that it’s more common place to call people “defensive” than it is to call someone “accusatory”? Why is that when arguments arise, it seems oddly acceptable for the complainant to use the “you’re just being defensive!” to dismiss everything you might say in reply to the accusation? Why is it almost seeming that once someone has thrown down the gauntlet and pointed the finger at some heinous crime that they alleged you did, that you’re seemingly instantly guilty of it, and that anything you say in response to that is seen as “defensive” AS IF THAT’S A BAD THING? What happened to a fair hearing in the realm of social interactions?

Imagine this:

Prosecutor: JURY! This… PERSON here has done something terrible! *proceeds to lay out reasons*
Jury: *after some murmurring* That’s it! We pronounce the alleged offender, GUILTY!
Alleged offender: Wait! Can’t I say something in defence?
Prosecutor: SEE?! THEY’RE BEING DEFENSIVE!! That makes them twice as guilty!
Jury: We pronounce the alleged offender DOUBLE GUILTY!
Judge: *bangs gravel* DONE! The offender will serve DOUBLE the sentence for DARING to try to defend themselves!

Gee, I wouldn’t want to live under THAT legal system.

I’m not saying that what defence may be given is a good one. But if people legally have the RIGHT to offer their side of the story (whether it be a weak or strong argument) why don’t they get the same right socially? Why did “being defensive” ended up turning out to be some sort of incriminating practice unto itself, so that ANYTHING you might say in your defence is thrown out simply because you’re “being defensive”?

Next time you accuse, consider that you exercising that right automatically means that the person you’re accusing has the same right of rebuttal. If you’re going to accuse someone then go “BLAH BLAH NOT LISTENING BECAUSE YOU’RE BEING DEFENSIVE” then you’re at best acting like a 5-year-old and at worse acting like some sort of zealous lyncher. And really, who takes the opinion of those people seriously?

P.S. First “Toybox” page up! I hope you guys would at least look at (and maybe comment on) the Six-Word Story.

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